About Chrissie Shirley
Can a 70 year old woman change the world?
I have been an Access Consciousness Facilitator for over 10 years, and using the Access tools and processes for around 17. An Access Facilitator is licensed to facilitate the beginning classes of Access and to introduce people to the tools and processes that assist them to break free of many limitations that stop them from having great relationships, ease with their body and with all areas of life. These tools assist people in having more fun in life and getting rid of depression and all sorts of things.
Looking back on my life I see the life’s experiences I created and which pushed me into searching for more and different ways of living.
What I would like you to know about me is that although you see a happy, confident, outgoing woman now, I wasn’t always that way.
As a young woman I married a man who was abusive and unkind. I thought if I loved him enough he would eventually love me! Not very bright! I see that now.
I had 5 children to him, and the first child died at the age of 7 months. The reason I tell you this is because you can see the life’s experience and understanding that brings me. I know that when a person has a child that dies at a young age, how it feels to be in such excrutiating emotional pain and loss. I remember, that I had to put her in hospital at the age of 3 months, when I found out that she had myoblastic leukaemia. As a young, first-time mother my breasts ached with the unused milk and in those days people didn’t insist on their rights to stay in hospital with their babes. And my heart broke for my love and grief of being unable to nurture this young, gorgeous infant who was bringing so much joy to my life.
And then leaving this unpleasant man after 17 years of living together in upset and trauma and drama, every day. And because we were farmers, I had to leave 2 of my beautiful young children behind on the farm. They loved the farm life, and I had asked them to decide whether they wanted to come with me, or stay on the farm. (The oldest was at boarding school in Napier).
So the struggle continued as I went on the search to make my life better.
I moved to Auckland and thought that that would be good for me, and in some ways it was, but the search continued, and the heart ache increased when my gorgeous 23 year old son was killed in a truck accident a few days before Christmas 1999. This experience I can look back on and see was a turning point in my life, because soon after I discovered a modality called Access Consciousness. I was seriously searching, I had to find something that would eleviate this emotional suffering and crying every day. And now I know that when people are grieving you pretty much cannot say anything, - I was like that! Don’t tell me you know what it feels like, if you haven’t experienced the loss of someone who is a huge contribution to the joy in your life! The walls are up, and the barriers are around you to protect you from anyone contributing any kindness at all. Many people have these walls and barriers just from the many painful experiences they have in life.
Fast forward to 2017 February, and a few years have passed in which I have been involved with Access Consciousness, I have met a very kind man, who is attracted to me because I am different, and because I am involved with Access Consciousness. He attended all my classes as a participant and we became very good friends and lovers.
We sold up everything in New Zealand and went together to Australia, to the Sunshine Coast. We bought a house together and had an adventure. Then there was a time 7 years later when I knew we must return to New Zealand. My man, who has been such an amazing support and companion to me was starting to get dementia. Oh the joys of learning to navigate myself around this one. It’s not an easy gig, being patient with a person who asks the same question many times, and I must admit I have not always been gentle with him. But I am improving, and I am so grateful for the gift that this man has been for me, that I have vowed that I will take care of him until he no longer needs me. And you know it’s not really bad, because he is amazing in many ways. He loves to invent things, he makes things, he grows his garden. For example, he has grafted three different plum varieties onto the very old plum tree that we inherited when we bought this house 3 years ago. He grows kowhai seedlings from seeds and sells them at the local markets. He has just recently designed and made 2 outdoor chairs that are so wonderful to sit in and soak up the sun. And guess what? He has an amazing capacity for making money on the share market. He is that darn obsessive compulsive that he tracks our money, he takes care of the money, and loves to work out the figures. I have to hear about percentages of profit and all the share market jargin. He studies a book written by Louise Bedford and at the moment we are making money. That can’t be too bad!
At the age of 70 I don’t need to work. I work because it is fun for me, and I am like Jim, I have to be busy. As an Access Facilitator I love people, I love chatting and connecting with peeps from all walks of life and my job is much of my social life.
Access Consciousness has some wonderful energy tools that are so easy to use. And of-course I am available for sessions of Access Consciousness. My specialty is empowering people to use the access tools in what ever selling they may be involved with. My website has some great free gifts www.chrissieshirley.com if you have anything you want to sell.
Here's my take on selling. Years ago, I set up a group called “Sales People with a Purpose” in Hawkes Bay. We used to have speakers from all walks and we had a lot of speakers about “sales”. You know, they used to teach us about having a unique selling point, they had many ideas about selling. And having being involved in sales for a few years now, I know that selling is really about enjoying people, having fun, and it’s all about what does this person require? Sales is not about what I want. It really is about living your life, and meeting people along the way. People are drawn to someone who they know has integrity, and is not there for the money. The people find you when they are looking for someone who is refreshing, and kind, smart and above all, interested in what they require.
To come from the place of having to have sales targets, and expectations, and all the theories out there about selling – those theories are archaic. The sales companies that do not constantly look at different ways of doing things are going to be left behind. I am looking to work with people who are open to new and different ways of doing things. People who are not doing it for the money, but because it is enjoyable to them.
What happened to Swiss watches when digital watches superseded the wind-up watch? They were so blinded about how successful they were, they couldn’t see the possibility of a watch that had a small battery. And they went out of business in a few years.
The Access philosphy I live from is
To have gratitude and kindness for myself, for my life and for everyone who is in my life
To have allowance and “no judgment” for myself and for the people I work with
To have trust in myself and not blind faith in others but to trust that people will be who they are
To have vulnerability, gentleness and kindness for myself and others.
To honour myself and others, and treat people with regard and respect
I wonder what contribution I could be to the world? What contribution could I be to the people who are looking for a person who is genuinely interested in them? And could a 70 year old woman change the world?
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Chrissie Shirley – Where do I Begin??
In my case I was at a market one Saturday morning and there was something attracting me to speak to this lady. It took Chrissie 22 minutes to change my life from one of despair to having the energy to save my business and laugh again. The power of the bars! What an incredible feeling that was.
Chrissie is pure gold for her absolute desire to help others enjoy the same zest and outlook for life that she has. I still have a way to go to appreciate a truly fulfilling life. She makes this journey so much easier as she has this awareness to be there on the phone anytime day or night to lead the way with encouraging words and repositioning.
Love ya Chrissie
Testimonials about The Joy of Selling class:
Thanks for facilitating such a fun class on Joy of Selling. It was great to blast through judgments about selling, and the concept of sales is much more expansive for me now. I enjoyed practical examples, and tools for inviting people to try my products and services which I can implement every day. As a result of the class I am making a demand for my business to change.
"I didn't realize how many judgments and conclusions I had around the word 'selling', making me feel very heavy every time I thought about it, there was not much joy! Chrissie facilitated the class wonderfully and it was so much fun. I left feeling much lighter and knew the tools I got, would make what I will be selling, far more joyful. Thank you so much Chrissie."
Chrissie Shirley's current class listing.